I am so glad to hear this other perspective!! thank you! New angles to think about. I did not realize how folks valued the sanctuary aspect of Middle-Pause or how much its needed. I was more along the lines of how can we spice things up. Is there a men's pub out there that deals with midlife issues. If so maybe we can be figure out ways to connect and mutually support. If we do decide to try it, we could have a time frame and re-evaluate after say one to three months. Meanwhile, here's an invitation for more stories, please. thanks!